{"id":591,"date":"2013-11-19T04:00:54","date_gmt":"2013-11-19T00:00:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/temp.dianaderringer.com\/?p=591"},"modified":"2019-01-30T14:32:01","modified_gmt":"2019-01-30T19:32:01","slug":"bite-your-tongue","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dianaderringer.com\/bite-your-tongue\/","title":{"rendered":"Bite Your Tongue"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\"BiteBite your tongue tells\u00a0another person\u00a0to remain silent.<\/h3>\n

We might say bite your tongue to:<\/p>\n

    \n
  1. Declare we don\u2019t want to hear what the other person\u00a0has to say.\u00a0That person’s\u00a0statement may or may not be true. For example,\u00a0someone\u00a0might predict a snowfall. If we don\u2019t want snow, we say, \u201cBite your tongue!\u201d<\/li>\n
  2. Encourage someone to remain silent when another person hurts or displeases her. We will explore this meaning today.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    People may hurt us, yet we can choose not to hurt them.<\/h3>\n

    We can\u2019t bite our tongue and talk at the same time. If we wait before we speak, we save ourselves and others much heartache. I don\u2019t want to say something I will regret, do you?<\/p>\n

    Gossips or busybodies <\/a>talk when they shouldn\u2019t. They should bite their tongues. However, if we try to hurt them or anyone else because they hurt us, we only make the problem bigger.<\/p>\n

    Everyone benefits when we think before we speak or act.<\/h3>\n

    Instead of fighting back with our words, why not try one of the following?<\/p>\n

      \n
    1. Walk away.<\/li>\n
    2. Count to 10 (or more) before we respond.<\/li>\n
    3. Explain how the person\u2019s words or actions made us feel, when we can do so calmly.<\/li>\n
    4. Pray for the person.<\/li>\n
    5. Say or do something nice for that person. We may gain a friend. If not, we still know we did the right thing.<\/li>\n
    6. Try to understand why the person acts the way he does.<\/li>\n
    7. Remember: We can\u2019t control the other person, but we can control ourselves. Charles R. Swindoll said, \u201cLife is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      \u201cHelp me, Lord, to keep my mouth shut and my lips sealed\u201d (Psalm 141:3 TLB).<\/p>\n

      Do you have other helpful ideas for dealing with people who hurt us? Please comment below.<\/p>\n

      Thanks to Jenny Kuo for suggesting and modeling this expression.<\/p>\n

      Subscribe to receive my weekly posts by email<\/a> and receive a free copy of “Words of Hope for Days that Hurt.”<\/p>\n

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        Bite your tongue tells\u00a0another person\u00a0to remain silent. We might say bite your tongue to: Declare we don\u2019t want to hear what the other person\u00a0has to say.\u00a0That person’s\u00a0statement may or may not be true. For example,\u00a0someone\u00a0might predict a snowfall. If we don\u2019t want snow, we say, \u201cBite your tongue!\u201d Encourage someone to remain silent when another person hurts or displeases her. We will explore this meaning today. People may hurt us, yet we can choose not to hurt them. We…<\/p>\n

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