Butter Up
When we prepare special meals or snacks, we often butter up our food to make it taste better. What would holiday meals be like without butter for the turkey, rolls, and desserts? Who wants to eat popcorn without butter during a movie? Most people find butter a pleasing addition.
Not my husband. When he was three years old, his grandmother used a mold to create a beautiful dish of butter. When he saw it on the kitchen table, he thought it was ice cream. Like most little boys would do, he found a spoon and took a bite. He still hates butter.
To butter up means to flatter or be extra nice to someone.
We usually do this before we:
- Ask for a favor
- Give bad news
This expression applies to most relationships.
Children butter up their parents before they ask for:
- Money
- A special toy or gift
- Use of the car
Or, children may have to tell parents of :
- Trouble they caused
- Bad grades
- Chores they failed to do
Students also butter up their teachers, hoping for a better grade. Employees butter up their bosses before requesting a raise.
If we do our best, we don’t have to butter up anyone.
Instead of being nice in order to get what we want, why not be nice all the time? Rather than put off bad news, why not be honest from the start? We never need to butter up if we stay on the up and up and do what we need to do.
“You know we never used flattery, nor did we put on a mask to cover up greed—God is our witness” (1 Thessalonians 2:5 NIV).
Thanks to Regina Graham for the suggestion.
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