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Watch Your Back

Watch Your Back

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Watch Your BackTeachers in self-defense classes tell us “Watch your back.”

We don’t have eyes in the back of our heads, so how do we do that? We watch our backs by:

  • Avoiding danger
  • Verifying information
  • Preparing for problems

With electronics, we watch our backs by backing up our information.

If you want to keep it, back it up. Computers, smart phones, tablets, and other devices fail for several reasons.

  • Age
  • Malware
  • Theft
  • Accidents

Without backup, I would have recently lost all my documents and photos. Trust me; that’s one of a writer’s worst nightmares. I was thankful I had backed up my information more than one way. Pay attention to the warning, better safe than sorry.

Caring adults watch the backs of children.

Randi and Callie enjoy playing at the beach. So do their parents. Yet, Mom and Dad constantly watch the girls’ backs.

  • They protect them.
  • They guide them.
  • They set the right example – the footprints – for the girls to follow.

Watch your back. Watch the backs of others.

Follow the right footprints.

“Jesus answered: ‘Watch out that no one deceives you’” (Matthew 24:4 NIV).

Thanks to Shannan Posey for the photo and Laurel Blevins for the suggestion.

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Puppy Love

Puppy Love

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Puppy Love 1Puppies are cute, sweet, and make us smile. The same is true for puppy love — children or young people falling in love. We smile at puppy love, but we know it seldom lasts.

The problem: Puppy love depends on emotions alone — how do I feel?

  • If you make me feel good, I love you.
  • If you make me feel bad, I don’t love you.
  • If we have fun, I love you.
  • If we don’t have fun, I don’t love you.

As a result, young people may fall in and out of love several times.

Sadly many adults define love the same way.

The trouble with that thinking:

  • Good feelings come and go.
  • Life is not always fun.

True love – lasting love – means much more.

  •  I choose to love you.
  • I commit my life to you.
  • I will do what is best for you.

That does not mean love is blind. It does mean:

  • I accept that no one is perfect.
  • I will work with you on our disagreements.
  • I love you, even when I don’t like you or your actions.

In any relationship we sometimes feel on top of the world. Other times we feel like we are in a valley. True love says, “I will walk with you wherever the journey takes us.”

Love is a choice. Love is a verb.

Note:  If abuse occurs in a relationship, seek help and protection immediately.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs” (1 Corinthians 13:4-5).

What do you think true love means? Please comment.

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Bucket List

Bucket List

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Bucket List 2Do you have a bucket list — a list of things you want to do before you die?

I checked riding in a hot air balloon off my list over a year ago.

People have talked about bucket lists for years. However, the expression became more popular after 2007’s The Bucket List movie starring Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman.

The two men in the movie met when they became hospital roommates. Doctors told both they were dying. They had very different backgrounds and personalities. Yet, they began a worldwide adventure together. As they completed each activity on their bucket list, they marked it off.

In one of my favorite scenes from that movie, Morgan Freeman urges Jack Nicholson to find his joy.

Have you found your joy?

Do you know what gives your life purpose?

Our bucket lists may differ. Our circumstances may change. Our need for joy remains the same.

Always be joyful. Always keep on praying. No matter what happens, always be thankful, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus” (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 TLB).

What’s on your bucket list?

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Kick the Bucket

Kick the Bucket

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"Wild Bill" Hickok, Mt. Moriah Cemetery "Boot Hill"
“Wild Bill” Hickok, Mt. Moriah Cemetery “Boot Hill”

The literal meaning of kick the bucket sounds harmless. However, the idiom fills many people with fear.

When we kick the bucket, we die.

Kick the bucket may have started when hanging was a common method of execution. Sometimes criminals stood on a bucket while the rope went around their necks. Another person then kicked the bucket out from under their feet.

Many people rather not talk about death.

Perhaps that’s why we use so many idioms instead:

  • Push up daisies
  • Bite the dust
  • Croak
  • Pass away
  • Depart this life
  • Meet our Maker
  • Go to our reward
  • Fade away
  • Breathe our last
  • Laid to rest

We have many more, but you get the idea.

We avoid a hard truth by the words we choose.

Notice how western movies describe death. Like “Wild Bill” Hickok, cowboys are laid to rest with their boots on and their heads pointed west. Whatever the words, they remain graveyard dead.

Death is a natural part of life.

As Dr. L. Nelson Bell said “Only those who are prepared to die are really prepared to live.”

If we prepare to meet our Maker, we need not fear.

“Where, O death, is your victory? Where, O death, is your sting? For to me, living is Christ and dying is gain” (1 Corinthians 15:55 and Philippians 1:21 NET).

Next week we will look at the related but more popular expression, bucket list.

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Chief Cook and Bottle Washer

Chief Cook and Bottle Washer

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Chief Cook and Bottle WasherAre you a chief cook and bottle washer?

  • In your home?
  • At work?
  • In your club?
  • In other organizations?

If you answer yes to the following questions, you qualify.

  • Are you in charge of almost everything?
  • Do you complete most of the work yourself?
  • Are your tasks important but routine?
  • Do you often wish for more help?

We can easily complain if we have the role of chief cook and bottle washer. Perhaps, however, we need to look at our responsibilities a different way.

  • Think about people whose health will not allow them to work.
  • Express gratitude for our abilities.
  • Thank those whose help we receive.
  • Train others to perform similar tasks.
  • Request help when we need it. People are willing to help more often than we realize.

For all those chief cook and bottle washers out there, thank you. For everyone else, lend those special people a helping hand.

“Blessings on you if I return and find you faithfully doing your work” (Matthew 24:46 TLB).

Thank you to Brad Montgomery for the photo of sweet Savannah, a chief cook and bottle washer in training. Thank you to Rebecca Stafford, a longtime chief cook and bottle washer, for suggesting this expression.

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Music to My Ears

Music to My Ears

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Music to My EarsRain on a tin roof sounds like music to my ears. So do waterfalls and ocean waves. Water from each of those refreshes the earth. Their sounds refresh my soul.

What sounds like music to your ears?

• A child’s laughter?
• A teacher’s praise?
• A loved one’s voice?

Like beautiful music, they fill us with joy.

If we long for those sounds, why don’t we create them more often?

• Give a child or adult a reason to laugh.
• Praise others when they do well.
• Speak words of love.

At the same time, let’s avoid harmful sounds.

• Abusive language and actions
• Gossip
• Words of hatred

In a world filled with negatives, let’s offer something positive. May our words, actions, and attitudes fill the hearts of everyone we meet with the sound of music.

“I will watch my ways and keep my tongue from sin” (Psalm 39:1 NIV).

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Fair to Middling

Fair to Middling

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Fair to MiddlingI love Midway Geyser Basin of Yellowstone National Park. Like the name suggests, it sits in the middle of the Upper and Lower Geyser Basins. However, it definitely is not fair to middling. It:

  • Steams, spews, and stinks
  • Changes constantly
  • Never disappoints its visitors.

Unlike Midway Geyser Basin, when we say we are fair to middling, we mean:

  • I’m not wonderful.
  • I’m not bad.
  • I’m in the middle of those two feelings.

Nothing horrible happens. Nothing great happens. We live, but little more.

Who wants to live like that?

Of course, we all have those days, but we hope they don’t last long.

We want to feel well. We want to wake each day ready to jump out of bed and go.

Often we get this fair to middling feeling because we fail to give life our all. We hold back because we fear failure. Yet, we all fail.

  • The greatest baseball players have more strikes than homeruns.
  • The greatest actors frequently forget their lines.
  • The greatest teachers occasionally have to say, “I don’t know.”

Let’s give life our best. Let’s not rob ourselves of opportunities and adventure. Living every day for all it is worth does not mean constant activity. It does mean squeezing every possible benefit from that day. That may mean staying busy as a bee. It may also mean taking a nice long rest.

Regardless of our circumstances, let’s move beyond fair to middling. Let’s choose to live a full life.

“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full” (John 10:10 NIV).

Special thanks to Judith Coopy for suggesting this expression.

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Empty Nest

Empty Nest

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Empty NestThis empty nest was once a happy home for a mama bird and her babies. They lived in the gutter on one corner of our front porch.

We first saw the nest after the mama bird had laid her eggs. We left the nest until the eggs hatched and the baby birds flew away. Mama bird also left once her nest was empty.

That’s the way nature works. Before birth and soon after, children need extra care. As they grow stronger, they do more on our own. They learn how to survive without their parents.

  • How to work
  • How to get along with others
  • How to take care of their daily needs
  • How to have fun

Eventually most children fly away – they leave home to begin a new life.

When children leave home, parents have an empty nest. They must also begin a new stage in life. While everyone may enjoy visits, they know life moves forward. To be most effective, parents must move forward too.

Each life stage is different. Each life stage is good.

“Even the birds find a home there, and the swallow builds a nest, where she can protect her young near your altars, O LORD who rules over all, my king and my God” (Psalm 84:3 NET).

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Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas

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Merry ChristmasMerry Christmas!

We often hear this greeting during the month of December. But what does it really mean?

  • Happy holiday?
  • Enjoy a good December?
  • Have fun?

We may mean all the above. However, for those who believe in Jesus, the Christ of Christmas, it means so much more.

The word Christmas comes from the Old English “Mass of Christ.”

Christmas celebrates the birth of Jesus, the Christ.

Many people celebrate Christmas without knowing the Christmas story. They focus on decorated trees, Santa Claus, parties, and presents. They have no idea Jesus is the greatest gift.

Jesus came to give eternal life and a home in heaven.

He offers His presence and a life filled with:

  •  Hope
  • Peace
  • Joy
  • Love

As with any gift, we can accept Jesus’ gift or reject it.

I pray that you accept Jesus’ life-changing gift this Christmas and share it with everyone you meet.

Merry Christmas! Joy to the world! The Lord has come.

“The virgin will conceive and give birth to a son, and they will call him Immanuel” (which means “God with us”) (Matthew 1:23 NIV).

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Don’t Put the Cart before the Horse

Don’t Put the Cart before the Horse

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Please welcome my friend Emily Akin as today’s guest writer. Emily and I met at Kentucky Christian Writers Conference. Emily lives in northwest Tennessee with her husband of 45 years and their Jack Russell terrier, Jeb.

“I always have prayer before I go into the courtroom,” said the judge I was interviewing. “One day, I didn’t get a chance to pray before going in. Everything seemed to go wrong.”

Later, he returned to his office. While there, he realized he had forgotten to pray.

“I prayed, and I went back into the courtroom. Everything fell into place,” he said.

The judge had “put the cart before the horse.” We say that when a person makes a task more difficult by doing things in the wrong order. The cart is made for the horse to pull rather than push.

  • Put the horse in front of the cart. The horse pulls the cart.
  • Put the horse behind the cart. The horse does not know what to do.

We put the cart before the horse by:

  • Starting on a trip without knowing what route we’ll take.
  • Buying clothes for an event before we’ve been invited.
  • Asking God to bless our efforts after we’ve made our own plan.

Our plans work out better if we consult God first. Perhaps what we’ve planned is not what God wants for us. It could be that we have the right idea, but we are going about it the wrong way. Let’s be sure our plans follow God’s purpose. Put the horse before the cart in everything we do.

“Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails” (Proverbs 19:21, NIV).

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