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It Is What It Is

It Is What It Is

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It Is What It Is--stump with a moose carvingIt is what it is. That reality applies to all of life. Much we can change, but not everything.

It is what it is refers to a situation we can’t change.

We don’t like it, but we can’t undo what has been done, so we:

  • Accept it
  • Do the best we can
  • Move on with our lives

We must deal with life as it comes.

When we can’t change it, we make the most of it. Yes, it is frustrating. Yes, it is hard. That’s life. We deal with it as it is.

A simple example: What do we do with a stump? The tree is gone. Do we:

  • Do nothing and leave the stump where it is?
  • Dig it up and fill the hole with dirt?
  • Try to make it beautiful?

It Is What It Is--honeysuckle covered stumpTree carvers turn stumps into works of art. Most of us don’t have that skill. My family’s solution: We let honeysuckle cover the stump. Honeysuckle is a weed, but we love its blooms.

Our stump is still a stump, but we chose to make the best of a bad situation.

Before I took the honeysuckle picture, a deer ate most of its blooms. I was disappointed, but it is what it is. I took the picture anyway.

Occasionally, it is what it is becomes an excuse to do nothing.

Although hard, most difficulties are not impossible. We simply don’t want to deal with them.

Let’s use this expression to motivate, not to excuse.

Make the most of life as it is.

“Let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds” (Hebrews 10:24 NIV).

Thanks to Karen Atwood for the suggestion. First image by Kai from Pixabay.

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Hands Are Tied

Hands Are Tied

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Hands Are Tied--rope tied around wristsMost of us experience times we want to do something but can’t. Our hands are tied. Reasons include:

  • We are too busy.
  • Our boss does not allow it.
  • We lack necessary resources.
  • The law or other rules prevent it.

If our hands are tied, we are not free to act.

Like a prisoner, circumstances limit us. Although we want to make a change or help someone, we can’t.

Occasionally we say our hands are tied as an excuse.

We don’t want to do something. Yet, we say, “I can’t” rather than “I don’t want to.” Most people recognize such dishonesty immediately, or they learn about it later. Better to stay as good as our word and speak only the truth.

Many times, we give up too soon.

We try on our own and fall flat. If we pray, God may open new possibilities. The impossible becomes possible with God.

Make a difference when we can. Seek help when we can’t.

 Everyone can make a positive difference. Rarely are our hands tied.

With God’s help and the help of other people, we can make our world a better place.

“Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need” Hebrews 4:16 NIV).

Thanks to Patty Cooper Emerson for the suggestion.

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No Ifs, Ands, or Buts

No Ifs, Ands, or Buts

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No Ifs, Ands, or Buts in a red circle with X over it“If you miss more than three classes, you fail. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.” Few students want to hear those words. Definitely not if they just missed a third class.

“If you come home past curfew, you are grounded for a month. No ifs, ands, or buts.” Teenagers don’t like to hear that, especially if they just came home an hour past curfew.

No ifs, ands, or buts means no excuses.

 People who say this want no:

  • Arguments
  • Compromises
  • Explanations
  • Protests

They expect others to do as instructed.

  • Parents expect children to obey.
  • Bosses expect workers to finish on time.
  • Teachers expect students to complete assignments.

No ifs, ands, or buts also means certainty.

No doubt about it, the expected event will happen, rain or shine.

  • Children promise parents they will obey.
  • Workers assure bosses they will finish their work before the deadline.
  • Students tell teachers they will complete their assignments before the next class.

Whether they finish early or work down to the wire, they will do it.

Everything works better when everyone meets their obligations.

A friend said she has often heard, “If ‘ifs’ and ‘buts’ were candy and nuts, we would all have a Merry Christmas.” She explained that people often say “if” or “but” instead of having faith all will work out exactly as it should.

  • If anything needs to be done, do it.
  • If anything needs to be said, say it.

No ifs, ands, or buts.

“Jesus replied, ‘Anyone who loves me will obey my teaching’” (John 14:23).

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