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Another Think Coming

Another Think Coming

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Another Think Coming--little girl lectures stuffed sheep“If that is what you think, you have another think coming!” Sadie’s poor sheep are in trouble.

Many of us have heard similar warnings as children and as adults. We were told, in no uncertain terms, our thinking was wrong. Such poor thinking often put us in hot water.

If we have another think coming, our thoughts are mistaken.

We may honestly believe wrong information. However, we may also try to twist the truth to get what we want.

Wrong thinking includes:

  • Believing most people enjoy an easier life than ours. Yet, everyone has problems.
  • Trying to lie or cheat in order to succeed. Yet, we hurt ourselves and others in the process.
  • Thinking we are better or worse than other people. Yet, every person is created in God’s image and worthy of respect.

We all make mistakes. Yet, God forgives and offers a fresh start when we repent of our wrong choices.

When we change our thoughts, we also change how we feel and act.

Negative thoughts make us feel bad. When we feel bad, our actions often turn bad. Therefore, remember:

  • God created us for a special purpose.
  • We choose whether to accept that purpose — to think and act according to God’s plan.
  • What we think, plus how we feel and act, makes a difference in our lives and in our world.

“A person may think their own ways are right, but the Lord weighs the heart” (Proverbs 21:2 NIV).

Thanks to Kristy Robinson Horine for the suggestion and the photo.

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Sour Grapes

Sour Grapes

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Sour grapes--grapes on a vineMost of us have probably had sour grapes moments. We want something but cannot get it.

Sour grapes mean we fail to reach what we want, so we pretend it is not important.

We give a sour grapes explanation when we:

  • Criticize or make fun of what we cannot have
  • Say we never really wanted it or would not have enjoyed it
  • Criticize or make fun of the person who gets what we wanted
  • Say we don’t care

Although we try to hide it, we are:

  • Disappointed we did not get what we wanted
  • Jealous of the person who received it.

We find the sour grapes fable in Aesop’s The Fox and the Grapes.

A hungry fox finds good looking grapes hanging above him. When he never succeeds in reaching them, the fox says the grapes are sour.

With an attitude like the fox, we decide if we cannot have something, it was never worth our time or effort – we would not have liked it.

The Bible also mentions sour grapes but with a different meaning.

The Bible’s sour grapes (in Ezekiel 18:2 and Jeremiah 31:29-30) refer to people suffering the consequences for their actions. Expressions that fit those verses include:

“In those days they shall no longer say: ‘The fathers have eaten sour grapes, and the children’s teeth are set on edge.’ But everyone shall die for his own iniquity. Each man who eats sour grapes, his teeth shall be set on edge” (Jeremiah 31:29-30 ESV).

Thanks to Carole Fite for the suggestion. Image by skeeze from Pixabay.

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A Good Day’s Work for a Good Day’s Pay

A Good Day’s Work for a Good Day’s Pay

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A Good Day's Work for a Good Day's Pay--youth replacing a ceilingNot everyone believes in a good day’s work for a good day’s pay. Honest, hard-working people do. Others work as little as possible for their pay.

Good employees give a good day’s work for a good day’s pay.

Those employees:

  • Work the number of hours expected
  • Take breaks only during break time
  • Work well with others
  • Show respect to everyone
  • Never cheat the boss

They put their hands to the plow and get the job done. A few employees work more than required for good measure.

On the other side of the coin, good bosses give a good day’s pay for a good day’s work.

Those employers:

  • Pay a fair wage
  • Do not overwork employees
  • Allow time for regular breaks and emergency leave
  • Provide worker training
  • Never act high and mighty
  • Respect and never cheat employees

A few employers pay more than expected for good measure.

Money is not always the greatest reward for hard work.

These youth team members from Campbellsville Baptist Church worked hard on their mission trip. They received no money. However, they did experience the joy of helping others. No amount of money can buy that feeling.

As 2020 begins:

  • Work hard and well if you work for someone.
  • Pay well and fairly if someone works for you.
  • Help someone in need.

“The work of their hands brings them reward” (Proverbs 12:14 NIV).

Thanks to Bonnie Alley for the suggestion and to Jenny Burgess for the photo.

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Pay the Fiddler

Pay the Fiddler

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Pay the Fiddler--fiddle in case with a money containerA friend’s father often said, “The one who dances has to pay the fiddler.” That makes sense. We live with the consequences of the choices we make.

To pay the fiddler means we suffer the results of what we say or do.

To pay the piper means the same. We use these expressions most often to describe the results of bad behavior. If we get in trouble, we get punished. Our choices force us to face the music.

The same truth applies to gardening: We reap what we sow.

  • Follow the wrong crowd — get in trouble.
  • Cheat on tests — fail to learn.
  • Hurt other people — lose their trust.

When we choose the right words and actions, we enjoy better results.

  • Follow the right examples — learn the best way to live.
  • Work as we should — grow in knowledge and abilities.
  • Treat others well — build trust in relationships.

Choose well to live well.

As another year begins, may we always choose the best. Happy New Year!

“Be sure your sin will find you out” (Numbers 32:23 KJV).

Thanks to Patty Cooper Emerson for the suggestion.

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In a Jam

In a Jam

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In a Jam-young woman making jamEating jam is fun. Getting in a jam is not.

Amy, a former Campbellsville University student, learned how to make jam during one of her visits to our home. We enjoyed an afternoon of fun.

Eating jam cake made by my husband’s mother and other relatives became a family tradition. We had fun as we talked and ate.

One of my favorite Christmas gifts from my mother was homemade raspberry jam and jelly. What fun my sister and I had when we opened that special gift.

If we get in a jam, we get in a difficult situation.

We have a problem and cannot find an answer. As a result, we feel like we are beating our heads against a wall.

Some jams are not our fault. However, we often end up in trouble because of our poor choices, such as:

  • Doing what we should not do
  • Going where we should not go
  • Wanting what we do not need

In a Jam--jam cakeDuring Christmas or other holidays, we can easily get in a jam. We plan too much to do with too little time to do it. We forget to have fun.

Slow down. Cut back on activities. Focus on what really matters. Take time to remember the reason for this joyful season.

Merry Christmas! May all your jams be edible.

 “A prudent man foresees the difficulties ahead and prepares for them; the simpleton goes blindly on and suffers the consequences” (Proverbs 22:3 TLB).

Thanks to Shanon Camille O’Banion and Cakes by Camille for the jam cake photo.

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Shake Off

Shake Off

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If dogs get wet, stand back. We don’t want to be too close when they shake off the water. However, we can learn from their actions.

We try to shake off what bothers us.

Problems we might want rid of include:

  • Dirt, bugs, and other yukky stuff
  • Sickness
  • Bad moods
  • People
  • Fear

Some problems are easier to shake off than others.

  • Dirt washes off easier than mud.
  • We get over a cold easier than the flu.
  • Grief over a lost game hurts less than grief following a loved one’s death.
  • An annoying child upsets us less than an abusive adult.
  • Bugs don’t scare us as much as bears.

Many of us need to shake off stress.

We become worry warts over:

  • Mistakes from the past
  • Difficulties we face today
  • What will happen in the future

Perhaps we should pay more attention to ducks and dogs.

Like water off a duck’s back or water off a dog’s body, let that stress go. Shake it off.

  • Get some exercise.
  • Take a walk.
  • Sing.
  • Make a list of what bothers us and then rip the list to pieces.
  • Let go and let God lead.

“Shake off your dust;  rise up” (Isaiah 52:2 NIV).

Thanks to Joy S. Taylor for the suggestion. Photo by Katrin B on Pixabay

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Burst with Joy

Burst with Joy

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Burst with Joy--old silo with smiling faceI remember the first time I saw this silo. It looked like it would burst with joy. A freshly painted smiling face greeted every passing traveler.

To burst with joy means we are so full of joy we can hardly hold it.

Our cup runs over with happiness.

The years have been hard on my silo friend.

  • Its paint has faded. Yet, its smile remains.
  • Rain, wind, and storms have given it a hard time. Yet, it still stands.
  • Time will continue to take its toll. Yet, each change reveals the silo’s inner strength.

It still looks like it could burst with joy.

I love the lessons this old silo teaches.

  • Age changes our appearance. Yet, it does not have to take our smile.
  • Life’s storms beat against us. Yet, they don’t have to defeat us.
  • Time will take its toll on our lives. Yet, we can make the best of each life stage.

We can’t always choose our life circumstances. Yet, we can choose our attitude.

Thanksgiving reminds us to count our blessings.

  • If we have faith, family, and friends, we have more wealth than many in our world.
  • Food to eat, a home, and basic needs also make us richer than most.

When we share with others, our blessings grow.

May we never forget to thank God and the people who add joy to our lives.

Let’s also never forget to bless others.

Keep smiling. Let your life burst with joy.

Happy Thanksgiving!

“Shout for joy to the Lord, all the earth, burst into jubilant song with music” (Psalm 98:4 NIV).

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Lipstick on a Pig

Lipstick on a Pig

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Lipstick on a Pig--baby pigWe can put lipstick on a pig, but it is still a pig.

Lipstick on a pig means we try to make something look better than it is.

  • A pretty plate does not make bad food taste good.
  • Fresh paint on a falling-down house does not make it safe.
  • A new building does not make a failing business succeed.

Change must occur inside as well as outside.

  • Cook better food to go on that pretty plate.
  • Repair the house and then paint it.
  • Change how the business in that new building operates.

Lipstick on a pig fools few people.

Often it fools no one.

Only true change makes a difference.

An improved appearance may make us feel better for a while. However, we must tackle the real problems for lasting change.

“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but be a new and different person with a fresh newness in all you do and think. Then you will learn from your own experience how his ways will really satisfy you” (Romans 12:2 TLB).

Thanks to Frank Cheatham for the suggestion.

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Run Deep

Run Deep

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Run Deep--tree roots on the groundRecently a cousin wrote, “Our roots run deep and are closely intertwined.” She meant our family has a long and strong history of close relationships. We may not see one another often, but our ties remain. We can depend on mutual love and support.

Anything that runs deep (or goes deep) stays strong.

 Family or friends give and receive:

  • Loyalty
  • Joy in good times
  • Sympathy and support in bad times
  • Commitment

We take our relationships seriously. We provide what others need when they need it.

If roots don’t run deep, we often fail when troubles come.

Like trees with surface roots, problems destroy our:

  • Relationships
  • Emotions
  • Sense of responsibility

When we root ourselves in the eternal, we survive the temporary.

By focusing on what matters most, we:

Therefore, let’s root ourselves in the never-failing promises of God. Then we can stand tall and stand firm through the hardest times.

“Just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live your lives in him,  rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness” (Colossians 2:6-7 NIV).

Thanks to Rhonda Wade Royster for the suggestion.

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Tuckered Out

Tuckered Out

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Tuckered Out--man with mowerAfter mowing all day, most of us feel tuckered out. We have little energy and are too tired to move. Without rest, we will soon be under the weather.

Tuckered out means very tired, exhausted, or sleepy.

To stress how tired we feel, we might add that we are plumb tuckered out. Or, we might say we are plumb wore out. (Worn out is proper grammar, but wore out is commonly used.) We need to hit the hay.

 Other activities that make many of us plumb tuckered out include:

  • Gardening
  • Walking
  • Shopping

According to The Phrase Finder, “‘Tucker’ is a colloquial New England word.”

 It was “coined in the early 19th century, meaning ‘become weary’ and … ultimately derives from the Old English verb ‘tuck,’ meaning ‘punish; torment.’”

Several activities may feel like punishment or torment:

  • Housecleaning
  • Pulling weeds in the hot sun
  • Moving heavy boxes
  • Washing a sink full of dirty dishes

Yet, getting tuckered out often makes us feel good.

Although tired, we finished what we needed or wanted to do. Whether fun activities or not, we can thank God for the ability to do them.

“[God] gives power to the tired and worn out, and strength to the weak” (Isaiah 40:29 TLB).

What leaves you tuckered out? Please comment below.

Thanks to Charles Smithers for the plumb tuckered out suggestion. Thanks to Emily Akin for plumb wore out.

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