Don’t Toot Your Own Horn
We want children to develop good self-esteem. At the same time, we don’t want them to boast—to toot their own horn.. Finding the right balance between the two takes work.
Children naturally desire attention. That’s okay up to a point. However, they should not seek recognition every time they do well. They need to share attention just like they need to share toys.
Telling children (or anyone), “Don’t toot your own horn,” or “Don’t blow your own trumpet,” means they should not praise themselves. In other words, don’t brag.
No one wants to hear their endless boasting:
- “I’m the fastest.”
- “I’m the smartest.”
- “I’m the prettiest.”
- “I’m the best.”
If those statements are true, let people see it for themselves. If untrue, bragging only makes them look sad or silly.
We hurt children if we allow them to grow up with an inflated sense of their importance. Instead, let’s teach them that we all have strengths, and we all have needs. By supporting one another instead of focusing on ourselves, everyone wins.
“Don’t praise yourself; let others do it!” (Proverbs 27:2 TLB).
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4 thoughts on “Don’t Toot Your Own Horn”
Diana, this is a great post. But, I was given similar advice by one of my music teachers in college. He said, “Toot your own horn, or the same shall not be tooted.” He was definitely being humorous when he said it. I like your version better.
Thanks, Emily. I had never heard that expression, but I can hear a music teacher saying it. Thanks for sharing.
This also applies to adults and when adults speak of their children. My Mother explained bragging to me at an early age. Your good deeds will shine brighter when someone else notices them without your help. Do your best and leave the rest in God’s hands. Granted as a Mother, Grandmother, Greatgrandmother and In-law to many of these, it can be hard to keep my mouth shut. “Brag in private”.
Thank you, Pat. How true. You were blessed with a wise mother.