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The Pits

The Pits

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The Pits-overflowing bowl of cherries and knifeMany in the world have faced difficult circumstances in recent days. A few describe their situation as the pits.

One problem stacks on top of other problems.

  • Illness
  • Storms
  • Difficult relationships
  • Job loss
  • Death

Troubles never seem to stop. Each day people wonder what will happen next and wait for the next shoe to drop.

The pain and uncertainty of life occasionally overwhelm.

People wonder where to turn and what to do. They feel like they are dealing with the worst of the worst. At the end of their rope, they want to give up in despair.

The pits can refer to a situation or a place.

Either way, no one wants to go there or stay there.

The origin of the pits remains uncertain.

Possibilities include:

  • Cherry or other fruit pits
  • Holes in the ground
  • Armpits
  • The service area in a car race
  • Coal pits

 None of these sound like a good place to stay.

Most people eventually get out of the pits.

  • They recover from illness.
  • Storms pass.
  • Relationships improve or they find new ones.
  • Other jobs become available.
  • Faith offers hope for life beyond death.

Whether in the pits or on top of the world, we have access to God who offers hope in every circumstance of life.

“I called on your name, Lord, from the depths of the pit. You heard my plea: ‘Do not close your ears to my cry for relief.’ You came near when I called you, and you said, ‘Do not fear.’” Lamentations 3:55-57 NIV).

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In a Jiffy

In a Jiffy

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In a Jiffy-Busy Vancouver, Gas Town street“Stay right there. I’ll be back in a jiffy.” I wonder how many parents have said that to a child. Or how many spouses have said that to one another. They don’t want the person to move. They will return quickly

In a jiffy means in a short amount of time.

 Closely related to immediately, if not sooner, in a jiffy can refer to:

  • The speed of a person’s work (“I will finish this in a jiffy.”)
  • How long a person will be gone (“I will return in a jiffy.”)
  • The promise of good service (“Your waiter will be with you in a jiffy.)
  • No delay of any kind

In today’s world of instant gratification, people expect almost everything in a jiffy.

No one wants to wait. Patience remains in short supply.

However, much in life is better with time.

  • Fresh fruit and vegetables need time to ripen.
  • People need time to learn.
  • Research requires time for accuracy.

In these and other instances, haste makes waste.

Speed is often necessary. However, rather than rush, people usually do well to take one step at a time.

“If we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently” (Romans 8:25 NIV).

Thanks to Liz Gray for the suggestion.

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A Hill of Beans

A Hill of Beans

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A Hill of Beans-stick beans in a gardenMy grandmother often said, “That doesn’t amount to a hill of beans.” In other words, it is not worth much.

A hill of beans means something has little value.

It is not important – a dime a dozen.

Beans are fairly common and grow easily. If we don’t grow them, we can find them on most grocery shelves. They cost little. Therefore, a hill of beans is worth little. If we don’t like beans, they are worth nothing.

Several items are not worth a hill of beans:

  • Outdated coupons
  • Broken tools
  • Electronics no one uses

Most things don’t amount to a hill of beans. All people do.

As long as we have what we need to survive, possessions matter little. Plus, we can’t take them with us.

Rather than focus on the things we own, let’s aim to treat others well.

  • Show the respect we desire.
  • Love others as God loves.
  • Encourage everyone to be their best.

“Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves” (Romans 12:10 NIV).

Thanks to Darrin Jenkins for the suggestion and to Jewell Wade for the photo.

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Let Sleeping Dogs Lie

Let Sleeping Dogs Lie

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Let Sleeping Dogs Lie--dog curled up in sleepLike several animals (and a few people) dogs can be dangerous when suddenly wakened. Therefore, we usually let sleeping dogs lie. We leave them alone to sleep in peace.

In daily life, we often choose to let sleeping dogs lie.

Instead of causing trouble, we avoid it. We don’t want to make a bad situation worse. If all is well and no one will benefit, why hurt anyone? We leave good enough alone.

Many words or actions only cause problems. Therefore,

Most situations are none of our business. Gossip and interference make us busybodies and do no one any good

However, at times we need to speak or act.

We must take a stand when necessary to:

  • Make a bad situation better
  • Help someone who hurts

Stay out of the doghouse. Unless actions will help, let sleeping dogs lie.

“It is to one’s honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel” (Proverbs 20:3 NIV).

Thanks to Brad Leverett for the suggestion. Photo courtesy of Pixabay.

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Hold Someone’s Feet to the Fire

Hold Someone’s Feet to the Fire

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Hold Someone's Feet to the Fire--fireman holding baby in front of fireLast week we looked at cold feet. This week we explore holding someone’s feet to the fire. I doubt many of us desire either condition.

Holding a person’s feet to the fire was a form of torture years ago. It was also a way to test a person’s courage.

Although we may not use real fire today, we still hold people’s feet to the fire.

When we hold someone’s feet to the fire, we pressure a person to do something.

  • We may want the person to do what he said he would do.
  • We may also try to force a person to do what we want him to do.

Occasionally we need to resist the pressure of others.

We don’t always want to do what they want us to do.

The Bible tells of three young men thrown into a fiery furnace, because they remained faithful to God. God was with them and kept them safe. Yet, they were willing to die for their faith, if necessary.

If we follow God, He remains with us, whatever fiery trials we face.

Like the three young men, we may have to go through the fire, unsure of the outcome. Like fire fighters who risk their lives for others, we may suffer when we serve our hurting world. However, we have the promise of God’s presence, whatever happens.

“If we are thrown into the blazing furnace, the God we serve is able to deliver us from it, and he will deliver us from Your Majesty’s hand.  But even if he does not, we want you to know, Your Majesty, that we will not serve your gods or worship the image of gold you have set up” (Daniel 3:17-18 NIV).

Thanks to Margaret Bertram for the suggestion. Photo courtesy of Pixabay.

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Two Peas in a Pod

Two Peas in a Pod

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Two Peas in a Pod--two men playing banjo and fiddleMy dad and Uncle Millard differed in many ways. However, they were like two peas in a pod in their love for music.

Dad and Uncle Millard did not want to play music professionally. Instead, they played for the joy of playing. They often gathered with other musicians in our kitchen on Friday or Saturday nights for a time of “picking and grinning.”

Two peas in a pod means two items or people are as much alike as two peas in the same pod.

Two Peas in a Pod--peas in and out of a pod with flowersIn addition to shared interests, like Dad and Uncle Millard, two peas in a pod may:

  • Look alike (identical twins, who are the spitting image of one another)
  • Have similar beliefs (people who attend the same church)
  • Act the same (shy people)
  • Share all the above

The similarities of two peas in a pod may change with time.

Several people grow more alike. Others become quite different.

People have no choice with some similarities.

They cannot choose:

  • Birth family
  • Health at birth
  • Many life circumstances

However, they can choose:

  • Friends
  • Education
  • Activities
  • Health care

Those who make poor choices must face the music. Others wisely follow in the footsteps of those who lead them well.

“The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray” (Proverbs 12:26 NIV).

Thanks to Joyce Cordell for the suggestion. Second photo courtesy of Pixabay.

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Keep Your Eyes Peeled

Keep Your Eyes Peeled

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Keep Your Eyes Peeled--Old North Church steepleOn April 18, 1775, many people in Boston kept their eyes peeled on the steeple of the Old North Church. There, two signal lanterns warned of British troops approaching by sea. This American history event became well known in Henry Wadsworth Longfellow’s poem, Paul Revere’s Ride.

The literal meaning of keep your eyes peeled sounds painful. However, the idiom suggests we watch closely to prevent pain or problems.

Similar expressions include:

  • Keep your eyes skinned.
  • Keep your eyes open.

If you keep your eyes peeled, you try not to blink too often or too long.

You want to stay alert to everything around you. Your eyelids are the eye’s skin or peel. When you blink, you chance missing what you want to see.

With your eyes peeled, you watch carefully for someone or something.

You might watch for:

  • A check in the mail
  • Bargains at a favorite store
  • An acceptance letter from your favorite school

You do not want to miss it.

You might also watch for the beauty around you:

  • Birds and animals
  • Mountains, lakes, or fields
  • Clouds, sunrises, and sunsets

Your focus – where you keep your eyes peeled – guides your life’s direction.

Stay wise as an owl. Choose your focus carefully.

Few things last forever. Not:

  • Money
  • Possessions
  • Status

Find eternal value in a relationship with the one who created you, eyes and all.

“I keep my eyes always on the Lord. With him at my right hand, I will not be shaken” (Psalm 16:8 NIV).

Thanks to Marilyn from Oklahoma for the suggestion.

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Rat Race

Rat Race

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As much as I hate rats, I feel sorry for them. The poor things never escape their rat race for survival. Not only do they compete against one another for food, people try to kill them.

A rat race means constant competition.

People compete for:

  • Money
  • Power
  • Success
  • Social status

They struggle against one another for the best position. Although they may not kill one another, they do often damage the work or reputation of competitors.

In addition, constant stress destroys people’s health. Intense pressure leaves little time to relax. Instead, they end up running on fumes.

Many people decide to escape their rat race.

Rat Race--city traffic jamThey choose a slower, more relaxed lifestyle.

When I think of a rat race, I usually imagine big cities. I love to visit New York City, San Francisco, and Chicago. However, I never want to live there. I hate traffic jams and daily crowds.

Instead, give me country life with wide open spaces. My little garden spot of the world suits me fine. I prefer the middle of nowhere to crowded city streets.

Of course, people in the country live with stress too. A too-busy schedule happens everywhere.

All people need moments to relax.

A slower pace gives time to

  • Enjoy the moment
  • Experience all of life
  • Recognize the importance of relationships
  • Give of oneself for a greater good

Work hard, but live well.

“Always strive to do what is good for each other and for everyone else” (1 Thessalonians 5:15 NIV).

Thanks to Shelia Price for the suggestion. Photo by Rebekah Blocker on Unsplash.

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Too Many Irons in the Fire

Too Many Irons in the Fire

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Too Many Irons in the Fire--Anthony SalyersAnthony Salyers demonstrates the work of an old-time blacksmith shop during Greg Lawhorn’s Molasses Day a few years ago. Anthony knows not to put too many irons in the fire. If he does, he will probably ruin part of his work.

Many of us have not learned that lesson. We fail to limit ourselves. Instead, we stay busy as bees with too many activities at one time.

Too many irons in the fire means we try to do more than we can handle.

A blacksmith must limit the number of irons in the fire when making horseshoes or other items. We must also limit what we do, if we want to do anything well.

Although we know better, we still try to do too much.

We overload ourselves with:

  • Work commitments
  • Family responsibilities
  • Community events

Often vacations get overloaded as well. We cram as much as we can into the short time we have. As a result, we return to work exhausted.

With too many irons in the fire, something will eventually fail.

  • Our work becomes less than the best.
  • We get sick.
  • Our families struggle.
  • No one’s needs get met.

Rather than overdo, why not do what we can do well?

Focus on the most important. If we have time and energy, we can add more. If we see we cannot do it all, let someone help.

“You’re going to wear yourself out—and if you do, what will happen to the people?” (Exodus 18:18 TLB).

Thanks to Emily Akin for the suggestion.

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Piping Hot

Piping Hot

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I love the piping hot sound of chicken fajitas fresh off the grill. Like high-pitched musical pipes, steam sizzles and rises from the skillet, music to my ears. I want to eat immediately, if not sooner.

Piping Hot--fajitas on a grillAnything piping hot is very hot.

Other piping hot favorites include:

  • Taco soup
  • Chicken casserole
  • Roast beef with potatoes, onions, and carrots
  • Grilled fish

Yum! As a friend used to say, “Those are good groceries.” They stick to the ribs.

I put any leftover food in the refrigerator, so it will not spoil. Too long at room temperature could cause food poisoning.

Spiritual appetites also need to remain piping hot.

Pass It On, a favorite song from my youth, declares that one small spark gets a fire going. It encourages singers and listeners to share God’s love with the people around them.

Each day, I choose whether to spread the fire of God’s love. So do you, dear friend. Warm is not good enough. God offers and expects the best. May that message spread like wildfire.

 “I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other!  So, because you are lukewarm—neither hot nor cold—I am about to spit you out of my mouth” (Revelation 3:15-16 NIV).

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Thanks to Kristy Robinson Horine for the suggestion. Photo courtesy of Pixabay.

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