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Swing for the Fences

Swing for the Fences

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Swing for the Fences--softball playing hitting a ballI always wanted to hit a ball over the fence when I played softball. I never did. No matter how hard I would swing for the fences, I could not do it.

A few of my teammates hit balls over the fence with no problem. I could run fast, but I could not hit hard. However, I never stopped trying.

To swing for the fences means to swing as hard as possible.

  • Ballplayers hope for a home run.
  • Businesses aim for great success.
  • Individuals focus on one main goal

To swing for the fences involves great risk.

  • Ball players risk missing the ball and striking out.
  • Businesses risk losing everything.
  • Individuals chance serious loss.

The win is not always worth the risk.

A careful swing that hits the ball beats a hard swing that misses. Likewise, taking time to make the best decision beats a get-rich-quick scheme that fails. Too many people go out on a limb with no easy way back.

Never risk relationships.

Swinging for the fences is not worth losing:

  • Marriage
  • Children
  • Friends
  • Reputation

Weigh the costs. Swing for the fences when it will hurt no one. Swing softly to keep relationships from getting off base.

“It is fine to be zealous, provided the purpose is good” (Galatians 4:18 NIV).

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No Ifs, Ands, or Buts

No Ifs, Ands, or Buts

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No Ifs, Ands, or Buts in a red circle with X over it“If you miss more than three classes, you fail. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.” Few students want to hear those words. Definitely not if they just missed a third class.

“If you come home past curfew, you are grounded for a month. No ifs, ands, or buts.” Teenagers don’t like to hear that, especially if they just came home an hour past curfew.

No ifs, ands, or buts means no excuses.

 People who say this want no:

  • Arguments
  • Compromises
  • Explanations
  • Protests

They expect others to do as instructed.

  • Parents expect children to obey.
  • Bosses expect workers to finish on time.
  • Teachers expect students to complete assignments.

No ifs, ands, or buts also means certainty.

No doubt about it, the expected event will happen, rain or shine.

  • Children promise parents they will obey.
  • Workers assure bosses they will finish their work before the deadline.
  • Students tell teachers they will complete their assignments before the next class.

Whether they finish early or work down to the wire, they will do it.

Everything works better when everyone meets their obligations.

A friend said she has often heard, “If ‘ifs’ and ‘buts’ were candy and nuts, we would all have a Merry Christmas.” She explained that people often say “if” or “but” instead of having faith all will work out exactly as it should.

  • If anything needs to be done, do it.
  • If anything needs to be said, say it.

No ifs, ands, or buts.

“Jesus replied, ‘Anyone who loves me will obey my teaching’” (John 14:23).

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Worth One’s Salt

Worth One’s Salt

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Worth One's Salt--saltshaker over a dish of saltMy friend Martha said her father described a few of her boyfriends as not worth the salt that went in their bread. He meant they were not worth much.

To be worth one’s salt means a person does a job well.

According to The Phrase Finder, “To be ‘worth one’s salt’ is to be worth one’s pay. Our word salary derives from the Latin salarium, (sal is the Latin word for salt).”

A person worth one’s salt earns respect because of good work. He or she gives a good day’s work for a good day’s pay rather than give a lick and a promise.

Salt adds flavor to food.

If not overdone, salt makes many foods taste better.

Salt also preserves food.

It helps prevent spoiling.

Like salt, people can add flavor to and help preserve the world.

Anyone makes the world a better place to live when he or she.

  • Does the best work possible
  • Takes care of God’s creation
  • Helps and respects others
  • Shares God’s love

“Salt is good, but if it loses its saltiness, how can you make it salty again? Have salt among yourselves, and be at peace with each other” (Mark 9:50 NIV).

Thanks to Martha Patton for the suggestion.

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The End of Your Rope

The End of Your Rope

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The End of Your Rope--climber hanging from a rope“When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot in it and hang on.” –Franklin D. Roosevelt.

Many can identify with the former president. Hard times hit, and you hurt. You wonder:

  • How will I survive?
  • Who can help?
  • Why did this happen?

When you reach the end of your rope, you feel out of options.

Like a person hanging from a cliff with no more rope, you feel desperate. You have no:

  • Strength
  • Hope
  • Patience
  • Desire to continue

You are ready to give up. You want to throw in the towel.

Problems may be as simple as no time to do all you need to do. However, problems may also be life threatening.

Whatever the problem, hold on.

Tie a knot and hang on for dear life. Help may be on the way. Many people want to help, if you let them know your need. Once you receive what you need, pay it forward by helping someone else.

When you get to the end of your rope, remember two words: “But God.”

You may not know the answer, but God does.

  • Troubles may not stop, but God walks with you through them.
  • Uncertainty may remain, but God gives you peace in the midst of it.
  • Life may look hopeless, but God offers hope for this life and the life to come.

When trials around you cause stress within you, look up.

“But you, God, see the trouble of the afflicted;
you consider their grief and take it in hand” (Psalm 10:14 NIV).

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Cute as a Button

Cute as a Button

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Cute as a Button--bowl of buttons“Isn’t she the cutest thing? Why, she’s as cute as a button.”

I have heard that expression since I was knee high to a grasshopper. People said it to describe:

  • Babies
  • Children and youth of all ages
  • Puppies, kittens, or other animals

Cute as a button usually refers to a small person, animal, or object.

Of course, not all buttons are cute. Neither are all buttons small. However, most are both.

Cute as a Button 2--Granny with dogAs a child, I spent hours playing with my Granny Childress’s buttons. Since she sewed for others, she always had boxes of buttons.

  • Cute buttons
  • Shiny buttons
  • Tiny buttons
  • Huge buttons
  • Buttons of every size and shape

Cute as a button refers either to how we act or how we look.

Granny enjoyed my playing with her buttons. They kept me still and quiet while she sewed. For Granny, still and quiet made me cute as a button. When I wore one of her dresses, she said I looked cute as a button.

Actions and appearance don’t always match.

I did not always act cute when I wore one of those cute dresses. When that happened, Granny told me, “Pretty is as pretty does.” She reminded me that how I act is much more important than how I look.

“Even small children are known by their actions” (Proverbs 20:11 NIV).

Thanks to Janna Babak for the suggestion.

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Make a Splash

Make a Splash

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Make a Splash--Niagara FallsThe water from Niagara Falls makes quite a splash. Since a right smart of water runs over the falls, we get wet when we get close.

If we make a splash, we get a lot of attention.

People notice us. Niagara Falls makes a physical splash. Those falls receive much more attention than back-yard pools.

To make a splash usually means we achieve success.

  • Actors or athletes receive awards.
  • Businesses set new sales records.
  • Artists display their work around the world.

We don’t have to make a splash to be successful.

Most of us will never receive great awards, set sales records, or receive world-wide attention. We may think we amount to nothing more than a drop in the bucket. However, if we do what God created us to do, we have achieved success.

Success for us may mean:

  • Doing our job well
  • Helping children stay healthy and safe
  • Encouraging people around us
  • Helping those in need

Each of us can make the world a better place, one small act at a time.

We may never make a splash. However, we all make a difference. Let’s make that difference the best one possible:

  • Whoever we are
  • Whatever we do
  • Wherever we serve
  • For as long as we are needed

“Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms” (1 Peter 4:10 NIV).

Thanks to Ann Knowles for the suggestion.

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Kit and Caboodle

Kit and Caboodle

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Kit and Caboodle--Yellowstone park with bisonIf I want all of something, I want the whole kit and caboodle. For example, I would love to visit all the national parks. So far, Yellowstone remains my favorite.

The whole kit and caboodle means an entire collection.

  • All the parts
  • Everything

According to The Phrase Finder:

  • A kit is a “set of objects, as in a toolkit, or what a soldier would put in his kit-bag.” (A kit-bag is a knapsack.)
  • A caboodle (or boodle) “is an archaic term meaning group or collection, usually of people.”

We rarely hear kit or caboodle used alone. However, we still hear them used together, either as:

  • Kit and caboodle, or
  • The whole kit and caboodle

The whole kit and caboodle can be a good or fun description.

For example:

  • Family reunions with all the relatives
  • A collection of books from a favorite author
  • Choir rehearsal when everyone shows up

The whole kit and caboodle can also describe something not good or fun.

For example:

  • All the side effects of cancer treatments
  • The loss of everything in a fire
  • A car accident that kills an entire family

I appreciate all you readers, the whole kit and caboodle.

You warm the cockles of my heart. Thank you for your:

  • Comments and messages (You can comment below.)
  • Suggestions for blog posts
  • Shares on social media

Above all, thank you for your prayers for God’s guidance.

“I thank my God through Jesus Christ for all of you” (Romans 1:8).

Thanks to Carole Fite and Brad Leverett for the suggestion.

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Come Out in the Wash

Come Out in the Wash

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Come Out in the Wash-blouse hanging on a porch with tree in the background“Don’t worry about it. It will come out in the wash.” Those words have probably helped many of us deal with problems or disappointments.

To come out in the wash tells us everything will be okay.

We hate to get stains on our clothing. However, most stains wash out. In the same way, we hate to have problems in life. Yet, most problems work out.

We try to cover up when we do wrong. That also comes out in the wash. We cannot hide bad behavior forever.

With time:

  • Wrongs will be made right.
  • Truth will expose lies.
  • Hard times will pass.
  • Good will win over evil.

Some troubles come out in the wash faster than others.

Not all stains come out quickly. We have to wash our clothes several times to get rid of them. Likewise, not all troubles disappear as soon as we like.

We often worry when all we need to do is wait.

When we wring our hands in worry, we make ourselves feel worse. Most problems cause little harm. If harm comes, it usually does not last long. However, if we do suffer a long time, we can look for lessons from our experiences.

Life gets dirty, but God offers to wash us clean.

If we accept Jesus as personal Savior, life’s troubles will one day end. The best is yet to come. Jesus paid the price for our wrongs and invites us to come clean. He will give us a fresh start.

“Wash me, and I will be whiter than snow” (Psalm 51:7 NIV).

Thanks to Linda Dean-Peavey for the suggestion and to Jeri Stone for the photo.

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Another Think Coming

Another Think Coming

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Another Think Coming--little girl lectures stuffed sheep“If that is what you think, you have another think coming!” Sadie’s poor sheep are in trouble.

Many of us have heard similar warnings as children and as adults. We were told, in no uncertain terms, our thinking was wrong. Such poor thinking often put us in hot water.

If we have another think coming, our thoughts are mistaken.

We may honestly believe wrong information. However, we may also try to twist the truth to get what we want.

Wrong thinking includes:

  • Believing most people enjoy an easier life than ours. Yet, everyone has problems.
  • Trying to lie or cheat in order to succeed. Yet, we hurt ourselves and others in the process.
  • Thinking we are better or worse than other people. Yet, every person is created in God’s image and worthy of respect.

We all make mistakes. Yet, God forgives and offers a fresh start when we repent of our wrong choices.

When we change our thoughts, we also change how we feel and act.

Negative thoughts make us feel bad. When we feel bad, our actions often turn bad. Therefore,  remember:

  • God created us for a special purpose.
  • We choose whether to accept that purpose — to think and act according to God’s plan.
  • What we think, plus how we feel and act, makes a difference in our lives and in our world.

“A person may think their own ways are right, but the Lord weighs the heart” (Proverbs 21:2 NIV).

Thanks to Kristy Robinson Horine for the suggestion and the photo.

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A Good Day’s Work for a Good Day’s Pay

A Good Day’s Work for a Good Day’s Pay

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A Good Day's Work for a Good Day's Pay--youth replacing a ceilingNot everyone believes in a good day’s work for a good day’s pay. Honest, hard-working people do. Others work as little as possible for their pay.

Good employees give a good day’s work for a good day’s pay.

Those employees:

  • Work the number of hours expected
  • Take breaks only during break time
  • Work well with others
  • Show respect to everyone
  • Never cheat the boss

They put their hands to the plow and get the job done. A few employees work more than required for good measure.

On the other side of the coin, good bosses give a good day’s pay for a good day’s work.

Those employers:

  • Pay a fair wage
  • Do not overwork employees
  • Allow time for regular breaks and emergency leave
  • Provide worker training
  • Never act high and mighty
  • Respect and never cheat employees

A few employers pay more than expected for good measure.

Money is not always the greatest reward for hard work.

These youth team members from Campbellsville Baptist Church worked hard on their mission trip. They received no money. However, they did experience the joy of helping others. No amount of money can buy that feeling.

As 2020 begins:

  • Work hard and well if you work for someone.
  • Pay well and fairly if someone works for you.
  • Help someone in need.

“The work of their hands brings them reward” (Proverbs 12:14 NIV).

Thanks to Bonnie Alley for the suggestion and to Jenny Burgess for the photo.

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