Elephant in the Room
Few of us desire an elephant in the room. Not the kind on four legs and not unpleasant subjects.
An elephant in the room means a problem no one discusses.
The situation is:
- Serious
- Important
- Obvious
We need to address the topic.
Everyone knows about it. However, no one wants to discuss it because it makes us feel:
- Uncomfortable
- Embarrassed
- Awkward
As a result, we ignore the issue rather than rock the boat.
- Families don’t mention strained relationships.
- Workers overlook wasteful systems.
- Friends choose peace over responsibility.
Excuses for ignoring difficult situations include:
- “It’s none of my business.”
- “No one gets hurt.”
- “I don’t have time to get involved.”
We want to remain on the right track. At times, that means we avoid unnecessary problems. Other times, it means we stand firm for truth and examine the elephant
An elephant in the room’s origin is unknown.
According to The Phrase Finder, it probably began in the United States.
“It is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret” (Ephesians 5:12 NIV).
Thanks to Ann Klotz and Darrin Jenkins for the suggestion.
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6 thoughts on “Elephant in the Room ”
Another terrific saying, Diana. Blessings!
Thank you, Martha. I appreciate your kind words and encouragement. Blessings.
My mom used a version of this to mean ignoring a mess because you don’t want to clean it up. She said there could be a dead elephant in the room and my dad would just step over it and go on.
I love that, Tracy! A perfect application. Thank you. I hope you have a wonderful week.
I’m so glad you focused on this phrase. I’ve always wondered where it derived from, but not surprised that it is likely American. I can think of many times this situation has arisen in workplace or family meetings. Sometimes I was brave enough to introduce the “elephant.”
Thank you, Diana.
When I received the second request to write on this one, I decided I probably should, Katherine. Like you, I’m sometimes brave enough to introduce the elephant. However, I hate confrontation and have a hard time doing that. Have a wonderful week!